A couple of days back, I was talking with one my colleagues during the coffee break, and he told me that “a research shows that when strangers asked a set of 36 questions to each other, chances of them falling in love are high.” I was like “wow!” and then I completely forgot about it.
Today morning I was watching a couple of YouTube videos and I came across a video by ASAP science where they experimented this theory. Two strangers were asked to volunteer for the experiment and they ask each 36 questions to each other. By the end of the session they say that they would definitely like to meet each other again. The end of the video even says that the couple has been on two dates after the session.
I also came across the published research article that served as the base for ASAP science to make this video. I wish they do a similar video in India where random singles are asked to volunteer for a session like this. As far as I checked they haven’t made a similar video in India. I would also like to personally test the theory if someone volunteers 😀 (I know that’s too much!)
For those who are eagerly waiting to know what these 36 questions are, you can find the list below:
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling … “
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … “
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
You can also personally test it and let me know how it worked out for you. The world of Psychology is exciting and I believe that we’ve just seen the tip of the tip of the ice berg.