I have friends who often tell me that I am shameless.
Well, according to them, I make a statement or have an opinion about something and later will stand different to what I said. I don’t deny. I’ve done that a couple of times.
I always hated the idea of buying expensive footwear. The most expensive pair of shoes I’ve got since last year was for Rs.1099. When one of my friends told me that they had bought a new pair of shoes for Rs.2500, I said “buying expensive shoes is a waste of money.”
But, things became different.
I always had a thing for Nike shoes. I don’t know the reason, but I love them even though I haven’t worn a Nike…like ever.
Then the day came.
I was in a shoe store to buy a pair of shoes and a pair of Nike’s caught my eye. The fluorescent green swoosh mark tempted me to try it. I tried it, and I loved it. I asked for the price. It was Rs.3146. I immediately bought the shoes. It was an impulse buy.
I wore it to work the next day, and I was labeled shameless. Because I said “buying expensive shoes is a waste of money”. I didn’t know what to say. I try to defend myself, but I knew nothing’s gonna work.
I still regret spending three thousand rupees for a pair of shoes. But, buying a pair of Nikes made me happy as it helped me strike off one more thing from my bucket list. (For a middle class Indian guy, buying a pair of Nikes is a valuable thing. Valuable enough to go on a bucket list)
Similar incidents happened for a few other instances.
Everybody has opinions and they stick to it. But, it doesn’t mean they should stick to it for ever. People change and so are their opinions. The process is continuous. King Ashoka, who went great lengths to conquer the entire nation, changed his opinion about war and victory and turned himself to Buddhism after the Kalinga war.
I am sure my friends have also had opinions about other people and later realised otherwise after they became friends with them. (I am expecting them to deny it. But, let’s see.)
Changing your opinion about something and accepting that you were wrong is a good thing. It makes you a better person. I was wrong, several times. I admit it. If I am being called shameless for changing my opinion, I’d very much welcome it. Being shameful would make me stick to everything that I’ve said and would make me live a fake life. And, I don’t want to live a fake life.
If you’re hesitant to change your opinion on something thinking others would judge you, please come out of it. It feels a lot better.
Until next time 🙂