DISCLAIMER: This post is dedicated to all the single people who’ve gotten tired of listening to relationship advise.
When you’re over a certain age and are still single, everyone becomes your relationship advisor.
During the recent times, I’ve been asked the following questions.
“Why are you still single!”
“How can person like you be single!” (I am going hyperbole here!)
“Are you seeing someone?”
“Were you seeing someone?”
And the best one is “You know, you should try Tinder!”
And, the funny part is a majority of those who give you relationship advise would be single too. It is like two guys who doesn’t know German watching a German movie and one of them is explaining the story to another person.
As the Valentine’s day is near, I am more worried about people who drop by and say “Why aren’t you finding someone! You’re wasting your life.”
I am not talking about close friends who are genuinely concerned about our well being. They always think about what’s good for us. I am talking about those who ask such questions just for the sake of it.
When I take a step back and look, I see a lot of single men and women facing the problem. It is not very different from the situation where a 60-year old retired post master uncle told you to study electronics and communication engineering as he for a fact knew that you would definitely go the US.
Sometimes, the best advise to a single guy would be to give no advice. People aren’t single without knowing about apps like Tinder or Aisle. They may be single for a lot of reasons: The ever changing marriage market, being friend-zoned often (that would be me), lack of proper financial situation at the household, an ill parent, lack of interest in getting into a relationship and so on. Some can openly discuss the reasons, but some can’t.
So, when someone gets uncomfortable when you talk to them about why they’re single, understand that there’s more to it than finding the right person.
Sometimes, you can show your love towards another person without doing anything. It could give them a sense of relief.
This Valentine’s day fall in love with people for who they are, and not for who you want them to be.
Until next time 🙂